Trained with Conscious Birthing
Mentored member of Doula UK
How will a Doula help me?
As a doula I can work with you both before (antenatally) and after your baby (postnatally) is born.
As an antenatal Doula my job is to support both you and your partner through the birth process. The wonderful thing about employing a doula for your birth is that you will have a constant support throughout your birthing process. We will meet before your due to date to discuss your plans for your birth, then once you start your labour I will be with you from as early as you need me right through until after your baby is delivered. In busy hospitals it is unlikely that you will have just one midwife for the duration of your birth. As a doula, I provide a constant, familiar face there to make sure your wishes are heard and that you and your partner are fully informed and part of your birthing process. I am not a medical professional and in no way replace your midwife or doctor but I can help you to understand the procedures that may be used and talk through your options with you in a non-biased way.
My job is to support you emotionally and practically. I may help by giving you encouragement at your lowest points, offering massage and alternative therapies, talking to medical staff, making sure everyone is aware of your birth wishes, making drinks, adjusting heating, looking after siblings, making phone calls, taking pictures, or by simply just providing a hand to hold; anything that is going to help on your birthing journey. People are often worried that by employing a Doula they are taking the place of Dad but in fact having a Doula can give you and your partner more time to focus on this intimate experience as the practical tasks can be taken away. See the FAQ section for more information on this.
Postnatally my main role is to help you to settle into family life. I can help with light household duties and with looking after older siblings, allowing you to spend time bonding with your new baby. I can support breastfeeding and offer advice on many aspects of caring for a newborn as well as allowing and encouraging you to rest by minding the baby. I can also help you to come to grips with the changes parenthood brings and offer a friendly ear when you need it. Just as in labour my focus is on including Dads where I can and my aim is to empower you as parents to make the choices that suit you. In other cultures it is typical for a mother to be given a 'baby moon' and to be massaged, fed and looked after for a period of up to 40 days, Whilst this is almost impossible in our modern society my aim is to give you your 'baby moon' and make the early days of having baby as stress-free as possible. Doula's normally work for 3-4 hours per day for approximately 6-8 weeks after the birth.