Hi I’m Tori, I am mum to three small wild ones (7, 4, 1) who all entered the world very differently and whose births have been a huge part of the blueprint that makes up my practice today.
I have often heard it said that being a Doula is a vocation rather than a career choice and this has certainly been true for me. I think the work definitely chose me and to be honest working as a Doula was just something that happened naturally as I came to understand the real need there is for good support for child-bearing women.
Having started my career in secondary education, working specifically with children with challenging behaviors, very early on I came to value the importance of information and listening! These are two things that I hold dear within my practice now.
Until the birth of first son I had just thought that child- birth would ‘happen’ and I would know what to do (or maybe i would be asleep and a baby would magically appear next to me in the morning, no pain, no worries) However upon finding myself pregnant I suddenly realised how little I really knew about any of it and sadly experienced poor support in my own early pregnancy. I was desperate for information and really wanted to feel supported on my journey. It took much research and many classes until I found the support that was right for me. As a result I feel so strongly that women should have access to good support throughout their pregnancy and labour and also understand the real difference this can make to their state of mind.
Birth is not just a medical process (as many would have you believe) but it is a spiritual, ancient, instinctive and sacred process. I believe every woman has a right to plan and own her birth journey, whatever that may be. And remember, there is no right way to birth!
I believe that birth can be an empowering experience but in order for this to happen a woman has to feel safe, secure, loved and supported on her journey. It is an honour as a Doula to be able to help put these supports in place.
Part of being able to feel safe and in control is through being kept informed. I can help you find information as your pregnancy progresses, help you to understand the implications of any complications and empower you to make the choices that you feel are right for you and you baby. I can guide you through active birth techniques to aid you labour and hope to sprinkle a little birth confidence throughout your pregnancy so you are ready to face the big day! Even if your birth journey takes an unexpected turn if you have the chance to be ‘heard’ throughout then often the process remains a positive one. I will protect your wishes throughout your labour acting as your voice and your advocate, allowing you (and your partner) to birth peacefully.
Everybirth is different! I will always listen to your wishes and be guided by you. Often just having someone to talk it through with can help you find your way. There are no silly questions, wrong ideas or set ways to do things. I have supported at home-birth, hospital birth, water-birth and VBAC. Whilst I bring my experiences with me, your birth will write it’s own story.
I like to think I am a warm and intuitive person. I am passionate about ‘mothering the mother’ during her greatest time of need however that role develops. I will offer practical, emotional and caring support throughout. This will range from simply a listening ear through to massage and alternative therapies during labour and even cleaning up the kitchen postnatally!
Not every Doula will be well-suited for you, it is really important you do your research and find someone who fits with you and your family. As a Doula I take a holistic approach to your care using natural remedies as part of my practice to help you physically as well as support you emotionally. Me in a nutshell: I live in organised chaos, feel before I think, value time with my family above all else (except maybe chocolate), love to bring a bit of make-believe into our lives and you'll often find us all outdoors exploring. I hate spiders (luckily you won't find many in labour rooms), being told what to do (that's why I'm my own boss) and injustice (phew a biggy!). I believe every job should be done properly, or not all so you won't find me undertaking anything half-heartedly.
If you would like to meet for an informal discussion I work across Wiltshire and within a 1 hour radius of Swindon. There is no job too small and I am always available just to chat if you need some advice or are not sure if using a Doula is the solution for you.
I would also encourage you to contact my local colleagues Emma Glover, Belinda Neal, Kathryn Beal or use the Doula Uk pages to find other Doula's working in your area.
FEDANT registered Antenatal Educator (Daisy Birthing) -2011
Doula training with Conscious Birthing (FEDANT approved)- March 2012
Using Slings for Labour and birth-March 2012 (certificate)
Waterbirth Study Day Dianne Garland-2011
FEDANT registered BabyNatal parent-craft educator-April 2012
BabyNatal CPD yearly (refresher course March 2017)
Homeopathy for labour and birth (certificate day course)- 2016
Homeopathy degree (currently studying in Yr2)